By Murray Sherriffs
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Six men have pled guilty in Montreal to their roles in a grandparent-fraud scheme that saw thousands of dollars stolen from elderly people in the US. 32-year-old Montrealer Steven Petruzziello has been sentenced to house arrest for what he did in the gang. Gang leader, 32-year-old David Anthony of Laval often referred to the people working for him as ‘my kids’.
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A Quebec man who smuggled a pregnant woman from Canada into the United States, that ended with her drowning, has admitted to what he did, in a New York court.
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A wannabe for the mayor’s chair in Quebec City, Sam Hamad, says that a rival party, Respect Citoyens, offered him a position as the city’s general manager if he abandoned his campaign, and that he wants its leader, Stéphane Lachance, to withdraw from the race.
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Montreal’s municipal elections are weeks away and last night, candidates of the three major parties pitched their visions for the future of Montreal’s nightlife, to make it more accessible, vibrant and resilient.
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As threatened, family doctors in Quebec have stopped supervising medical students and residents, to pressure the government to abandon its plan to tie their salaries to performance.
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Montreal police are looking into reports of gunfire in Park Ex’ on 8th Avenue, near the Deville.
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Longueuil police are asking women to step forward, if they witnessed 44-year-old Christopher Choquette engage in indecent behavior in public streets and parking lots.
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Justice Minister Simon Jolin-Barrette is now willing to hear from citizens into the Legault government’s plan to develop a Quebec constitution.
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An Amazon senior executive has told a labour tribunal that unionization efforts by Quebec workers were talked about in meetings by management, lending some credence to a union claim the company is closing up shop in Quebec because of efforts to unionize employees.
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Couples therapist Rachel Glic says that her experience has led her to believe that words and body language, even if no yelling is involved, is disrespectful.
It can lead to couples having a hard time repairing broken trust.
There can be a loss of trust by sarcastic digs, eye rolls, interrupting and belittling.
Awareness is the first step in taking accountability for your words.
Some phrases can leave a partner feeling diminished and unloved, placing the whole relationship in trouble:
1. Phrases that humiliate your partner, name-calling, or speaking disparagingly (Examples: “Really, second helpings?” “Oh, he always does that.” “Don’t pay attention to him.”)
2. Sarcasm and mocking tones intended as insults (Examples: “Great job on yelling at the kids.” “Is that what you’re wearing?” “Yeah, like that’s worth bragging about.”
3. Manipulative language that twists reality (Examples: “It didn’t happen that way.” “I never said that.” “You understood it wrong.” “You’re crazy if you really think that.”)
4. Moralistic statements that insult, correct, criticize, demean (Examples: “You spoil him way too much, because your mother spoiled you.” “You’re so selfish.“ “That’s a narcissistic thing to say.”)
5. Blame shifting (Examples: “I hate yelling, but you frustrate me so much.” “You’re making me feel guilty” “Maybe if you tried harder, I wouldn’t have to step in.”
6. Blocking compassion by advice, interrogation, one-upping or correcting (Examples: ‘How come you didn’t talk to me about this sooner?” “Why don’t you just ignore her?” “I’ve done this a dozen times.” “It’s not that complicated.”)
Solutions?
De-escalate; go out for a walk, go into another room and engage in deep breathing.
…or my personal favorite, “you want to fight, ok take your clothes off, I’ll take off mine.”
Suddenly there’s nothing to fight about because you’re laughing too hard or you get busy.
You’re welcome…
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Habs 2 Predators 1 (OT)
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Sun / 13 today
Cloud / 16 tomorrow
Sun / 24 Sunday